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I was the largest child in grade school.  The bullies would sock me in the gut, I would fall down in tears, and they would leave in fits of laughter.  Of course, the tears were fake, but they worked.

In junior high school, the bullies unscrewed the top of the salt shaker just far enough for me to spill salt all over myself.ketchup

When they tried the same trick with ketchup, it created a horrible mess.  I had enough, and chased the chief bully out of the lunch room, out of the school, and down the street.  As fat as I was, I was still very fast.  I was about to catch up to him, when he ran up to a house in full panic, screaming and pounding on the door, begging for protection from the “bully” chasing him.

I was never bullied again.

In the first half of Sunday’s COAST TO COAST AM show, psychiatrist Dr. Peter Breggin joined George Noory.

They talked “about the problem of bullying. He discussed a recent news report  from Texas about a father who made his son carry an “I am a Bully” sign  while standing on a street corner, after the boy was accused of  bullying his schoolmates. Breggin suggested that the boy’s father was a  bully himself and was subjecting the boy to public humiliation to make  him feel worthless, and this will probably lead to anger and rage for  the boy. Bullies typically come from a position of feeling shamed,  worthless, or powerless he said, and “the worst bullies…have been  humiliated by their caregivers, usually the father or mother, and then  almost trained to strike out at other people rather than the family.”

They went on.  “Girls, especially in the middle school years, can be particularly  abusive to other girls, with name-calling, spreading of horrible untrue  stories, cyber-bullying, and making fun of appearances, he detailed. A  lot of kids, scarred by bullying, end up turning to drugs as an escape,  as well as suicide and suicidal thoughts. Adolescents are struggling  with their identity, and to be subjected to bullying can be quite  crushing, Breggin commented. Bullies needs to be stopped, and “they need  to be shown, usually by adult authorities, that they can’t get away  with what they’re doing,” he continued. “I think that one of the biggest  issues we have in our culture is that we don’t protect young people  from bullying, and in doing that we enable bullies.”

I thought about the movie CARRIE as they talked about the girls.  That movie will soon be released for a third version.

Noory related a similar incident to my own – he found the chief bully at the end of the school swimming pool shaking.  The bully couldn’t swim, and was scared.  Noory dunked him for 10 seconds, then warned him to stay away.  The bully became a better student after that.

Conclusion:  confront the bullies.  This should be done by authority figures, but when attacked, fight back, even if you lose.  You will gain respect.

As the show figured out, most bullies are usually the result of terrors at home.  It is generational.

With all the verbal and physical abuse I had, I should have been a serial killer.

Just because George Noory and I escaped, doesn’t mean all children will escape.  Let’s help where and when we can.

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